Wednesday, July 22, 2009

Farewell Pa - March 21 1932 - July 19 2009

Our dearest Pa (aka "Bob"), Ox's Dad passed away last Sunday, July 19, 20:35hrs, CEST (Central European Summer Time).

Pa was a very quiet man who preferred to sit "behind the scene" and enjoy, more than to be the center of attraction. Many didn't understand it, but he truly had a good time. His family always had utmost priority. ALWAYS.


We got a call from Harry, OX's brother-in-law, at about 9.45am on Sunday telling us that he was on his way to Pa & Ma's, because Pa was not feeling well. Like two other of his late brothers, he had been suffering of emphysemea for a few years already, but all was under control and stable.


The doctor came over and shortly after, he called an ambulance and Pa was taken to the hospital and put directly in the ICU. By 11.30am, we knew it was critical, so we booked flights to A'dam and arranged for Dale to be taken care of. We made it in time to see him, and although he was heavily sedated and sleeping, we knew that he knew that we were by his side. He was released to "freedom" at 20.30 pm the same day. Best of all - if there is such a thing in this case - was that he let go while his family (Ma, Orange-X & Bren, Harry and I) were by his side. He passed away silently and without pain, just as he had lived his life. I thank the Gods for having had that chance - to really say goodbye and accompany someone you love to the other side.

It's been a rough week for both of us, and I hope you'll forgive me for posting this so late.

Finally, he can rest in peace. He will be dearly missed. We love you, Pa.

PS: I also want to thank Mr & Mrs. TBF for taking care* of Dale during these difficult times, but also for the cat sitting during our holidays in Canada.

*Knowing how much he'll be spoiled, I hope he'll want to come back to us!

11 comments:

Orange-X said...

Thank you for the beautiful words sweetheart. He will be missed... we'll miss out on the fun times having him and ma over at our place, but the memories stay.

Once more: thanks you. I love you
XOXOX

Xmichra said...

that's so sad :( i am sorry for both of your losses and hope you keep the good memories held close to your hearts.

(((hugs)))

christina said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. You're in my thoughts...

Expat Traveler said...

It also makes me happy to know you guys got to say your goodbye's...

You're definitely in my thoughts as always but hope that vacation brings a bit of happiness to you both!

The Big Finn said...

You're in our thoughts. We'll miss Pa, and we're glad that he got to come enjoy the rooftop with us last year. I'll always have a nice memory of him sitting in front of the fire enjoying his schnaaps.
Have a good unwinding vacation, and don't worry about Dale (we're calling him D-Man) - he's settling in nicely.

Ginnie said...

For those of us who never met him in real life, CS, we DID meet him here on your blog and will never forget him. So your loss is also our loss. I see his frail but full-of-love body before my very eyes. May he rest in peace. He had a life of Love. I'm so glad you both were able to be WITH him as he passed. Yes, he knew you were there. And YES, it is now time for you to go on vacation. The Gods orchestrated everything so perfectly!

Shammickite said...

What a caring post. I am glad that the whole family was there with him during his last hours, and he passed peacefully. My thoughts are with you and your lovely man.

Shelli said...

I'm so sorry. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

CanadianSwiss said...

I love you too, Hon. You did a wonderful job with the Eulogy.

Xmichra: Thank you, sweetie. He will stay in our memories :-)

Thank you, Christina :-)

ET: We're grateful that we got to say goodbye. Thank you so much.

TBF: Ma also talked aout the rooftop while we were there these past few days. He enjoyed it so much. We're so grateful for everything you've done for us so far. Thanks to both of you.
PS: We LIKE D-Man ;-)
PPS: Ma might be coming over end of August :-)

Ginnie: You always have such comforting words, and I know you would have gotten along with Pa very well. Thanks you, my friend.

Sham: Thank you, and I passed the message on :-)

Shelli: So glad you came by. Thank you, Hon! :-)

...ESP... said...

CS - Those are lovely words that you have spoken!!! Eli and I are so sorry for OX and your loss but so glad that you got to say your goodbyes with the family. Pa was a quiet man the times we met him but you could tell he took everything and everyone into his heart!! Our thoughts are with you and OX.

kanishk said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. You're in my thoughts... Work from home India